I was a sentence or two into yet one more sentimental note about my ‘glorious’ Minnesota childhood. A perfectly fine childhood in a better than average place…but it is possible I get a bit carried away with it all when the place I’m in is faraway New Mexico and my distance from childhood is about a hundred years. Well, not quite 100, but closer than seems possible!

Last photo album of the Old Place and farewell shot from a last night on the shores of Lake Superior.

The gravel road leading the 1 1/2 miles from US Highway 71 out to my place.

This summer in Minnesota is already distanced from me in ways I don’t like. In miles and climate and that feeling of homeness (whatever that means). But however long I live in New Mexico, whenever and wherever I’m out in the world, I will never miss it in quite that same childish/childlike (?) way as Koochiching County, Minnesota and our own spot in the northwoods.

This time I visited the ‘old place,’ my childhood home a few times and have already posted more than a few 2026 photos … looking much like 2025 (and further back) pictures, except to my eyes! Well, that’s not exactly true, I have a hard time telling the difference as well. But my heart knows, I say to myself. It’s true though, the last visits out home on any trip north is ever more fraught… ‘will it be my last? Nah, of course I’ll be back. For sure? Well, perhaps not for absolute sure. Then, let’s stay another moment so I can be sure to have imprinted the image for a future mind’s eye moment. Done and done and done, taking photos all the while.

Here then. The first post from the final two visits out to ‘the old place’ (or ‘out home’, interchangeable expressions) from August 2026. There are too many for even a single post intended to be viewed mostly by me in a future blog book. I am choice-averse when it comes to photos…as everyone who’s ever viewed a Time and Place post will have noticed long ago.

I thought about topical groupings like trees, big views, broken house but have just decided to mosey along in real time through each visit.

My sons, walking the periphery of their vast northern landholdings…well, on the California coast 80 acres would be pretty darn vast…at least in dollar value!

And below: the interior of the home in which I grew up. Humble (but ever so fine in spirit) from the beginning. I always enjoy my visits, never finding them depressing, as the house and I (almost exactly the same age) exit the planet creakily, but somewhat interesting in our gradual demise, together.

(Judy, Ray, Me)

Old friends, old friends

Can you imagine us years from today

How terribly strange to be 70 [80] [90]

Old friends, memory brushes the same years
Silently sharing the same fears

Old friends.

I’m an introvert…often thought of as avoiding or being less connected to people than the average human being. Not true. Introverts simply aren’t fond of groups, gatherings, crowds, masses. We are happiest with one, or two, or possibly three, friends at a time.

Without ever slighting the importance of family as being at the heart of who we are, I want to honor friends as making up a great part of everything we become.

This post was intended for few summer photos of Minnesota friends. With this blog as journal, I feel compelled to document everything energy allows in word and picture. And as I scrolled through photos, it came to me once again, how absolutely vital to our lives, friends are or can be. Sometimes family provides all of the human and world experiences we desire. But, for many of us, friends enhance and expand our whole, hopefully long, lives. For brother Robert and me, the latter is, or often appears to be, true.

About Robert and me and our friends. Personal friends, buddies. The ones whom you admire and with whom you share secrets and agonize over when all goes south; the ones who have fleshed out whole areas of your life. You know, they’ve known you since … always, it feels like—and still care about and are a little bit interested in what you think and actually have fun with you. A select few of those friends were right there with us up north this summer.

Making getting older and older both more doable and even adding a bit of joy to the process.

The following photos are from a gathering at Robert and Marsha’s, celebrating friend Barb’s 80th birthday. They have all known each other for varying lengths of time, but here’s an important point for right now. Robert and Marsha are really (they say) moving this year to warmer climes, forever abandoning Minnesota and winter. The friends who follow represent some of why that is such a hard decision. They include friends from 50 years ago and from 15 years ago. You really can’t replace 50 years of friendship easily and you certainly can’t replace moving into a new place and finding out, with great relief, your one close neighbor loathes the same political fraudsters you do. It’s had to replace that kind of human security.

And sharing my summer’s Minnesota adventure, friends from early school days (also known as a very long time ago).

Here’s where I want to further explain what I mean about family being our heart and soul (if we’re lucky) and friends being some of that and part of everything else about our lives.

Among my friends are those who have literally and figuratively shared my chilly Minnesota childhood and those who have traveled the world with me, broadening everything about my lived experience. They have kept me connected to childhood days of sharing secrets, big and small, and playing in the snow, and to stumbling on Greenlandic rocks, and to talking ageing bodies, books, and (being tutored in) music over coffee, via zoom and messenger and email. I simply cannot imagine my life without every single one of my friends, some passed these last years, most in the very present majority.

Just a photo or two from my slightly abbreviated summer trip, originally intended to include additional oldfriends, but for now more than perfectly represented by Judy and Ray, especially Judy whom I’m pretty sure has been a friend from as early as the 4th grade. After spending my first three years of school at a tiny country school called Haupt, upon its closure I was transferred to a big city school (Northome, population at the time, 300+), and Judy was there then or soon thereafter. And a year or so later, Ray appeared in our 6th grade year in the nearby village of Mizpah (part of a cohort of evil boys pushing the girls down in the snow…as I remember it).  Now that is a while ago. Let’s say a minimum of 75 years ago. That’s not so easy to replace even if one has moved as often or lived as faraway from home (Minnesota) as I have.

Talk about expanding the breadth and length of one’s life. Breadth in the sense, for me, of a grounding in the green and blue of northern forest and lake, living much of my life in the high desert of New Mexico, and visiting streets of Cape Town and steppes of Mongolia. One obviously doesn’t need to travel far geographically to find significant markers; for me though, with my first book love being an old geography text of my mom’s, distance counts. Which brings me back to where it all began…and where it will end with my ashes, the Northwoods.

Length. That’s even more important to me right now. How to note, satisfactorily to myself, that I’ve lived a long and interesting life. Go back to the beginning…and only then check in with this abominably sunny New Mexican day in my present state of old ladyhood. In the beginning…there was mom and dad on the tiny farm at the end of a gravel lane in Koochiching County, Minnesota. And that geography book. And some dogs and a friend named Susie and a brother named Robert and school and schoolfriends, one of whom was named Judy.

See how this family and friend thing works.

So, forgive me if I’m being a bit sentimental. If not at this age, when?

Old friends, memory brushes the same years
Silently sharing the same fears

(Thanks Paul Simon.)

Summertime. Family. We gather. Here and there, now and then. Our positions defined in the usual way. Moms and dads. Kids and grandkids. Uncles and Aunts. Siblings. We like and love each other, mostly all at the same time and all of the time, with only the rare flash of irritation or misunderstanding (my sons will claim the latter is mostly on my part…nah…).

This summer’s week of most togetherness came in late July, with me already up north with bro Robert and sister-in-law Marsha, and sons Scott and Steven, and grandson Steven, joining us. In spite of Robert and Marsha’s lingering colds and my bronchial attack, we managed many good times. My greatest pleasure was in watching the family dudes hanging out in endless desultory talk talk talk mixed with plentiful teasing, hard labor over the grill, and a once-in-awhile much argued over TV show.

Here’s my brief record of 2026 togetherness.

The silly hosts, Marsha and Robert.

The dudes of serious thoughts and opinions.

Important picture in the middle. First cinnamon rolls we’ve seen that looked like my mom’s. Missing the sour cream in tha glaze though. What to do… Still good.

Plans represent possibilities, right? As in Plan A/B/C. And, if I may advise, from what seems like a hundred years of both successful and thwarted plans, you need at least three backup plans for a satisfactory outcome.

I had big (stupid, but initially beautiful) summer plans for a two-month Minnesota road trip with benefits (as in many days and nights with various family and friends). First mapped like this:

Before getting even halfway through Big Stupid Plan A, I developed a horrendous case of bronchitis entailing emergency rooms and the inability to breathe, never a good look for holidaying. Even before that awkward situation had resolved, the available vehicle became unavailable, further diminishing the odds of heading out ‘on the road’ again. Imagine if I hadn’t made such ‘big, stupid’ elaborate plans ahead of time, there would have been nothing left.

Plan B to the rescue! Son Scott, also in Minnesota, only for a week (his Plan A), but being somewhat footloose and fancy free—as in retired—arranged to stay on, providing nursing and chauffeuring services for his kindly old mother.

And so…a slightly altered but generally enjoyable Minnesota time was had by all. Which means you will be treated to an even greater number of tree, old house, family, and friend pictures then originally intended!

You’ll be proud of my determination, one could almost say stubbornness, to hear that there is a Plan C.  Which is to return September 2027 with a goodly supply of anti-biotics and my own car, to complete unfinished elements of Big Stupid Plan A/2026.

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If I appear obsessed with time in the Northwoods it’s not actually so stupid if my age (very old) and the likelihood of having many more opportunities to enjoy such times are considered. So, 2027 may not be doable…but then again it may.

So, here’s to Big Stupid Plans…long may we have them.

I’m sitting at my own desk in my own pleasant study in my own ever-sunny Albuquerque, preparing to tell you a few small Northwoods stories before returning to Decades and World stories projects.

Since returning home, I’ve been to the grocers for milk-coffee and bread and butter supplies, to the gym where I only took 10 extra minutes to walk my regular three miles and to make yet more plodding headway on The Magic Mountain, and to my very own wonderfully comfortable giant bed for a few sleeps. Home is a fine place indeed. Made even better by a big-stupid-plan to leave it now and then.

Been up since 4am, had to milk the cows before I fed the sheep and chickens, weeded the carrots and moss rose, put medicine on the dog’s foot, let the orphaned ducks out of the pen, and fed the kids lunch…had I been mom! Or rode with Ike to where we’re logging in the woods out toward Effie…trees falling…it’s what I’d do…if I were dad.

These would be the children for whose benefit all of the hard work was being done.

But that was then and this is now, and I’m me, and I’m in Grand Rapids, Minnesota at Robert and Marsha’s and we got up around 7am, drank coffee and groused about the world as old people tend to do. Then we ate summer sausage sandwiches because we felt like it, did wordle, scrolled the news, cursed most politicians and all billionaires, and now it’s time to go to work. Robert and Marsha up town for errands, me to wonder what to write in my journal/blog this fine (very) smoky morning…fires here and there in both US and Canada.

Who turned out ok. Pretty much…. disappointing that my hair never really improved though!

The only serious-light topic on my mind lately, besides (almost) eminent death and fascist leadership, is this funny (as in strange) distancing I feel from life. It’s not unpleasant; in fact, it is quite likely a normal part of being in this old-old age category. It makes sense after all, that if one is soon departing home and family (or the whole world), a certain amount of relinquishing an attachment to any one of the aforementioned, a little at a time, is easier than waking up one day and realizing, ‘oh damn, I have to be outta here by 10.’ Anyway, I’m thinking a lot about saying farewell to places and people in Minnesota this visit. As I’m sure I’ve said to all and sundry before, the likelihood of being back again, at least once or twice, is high, but maybe not for two whole months with the opportunity to drive around and visit old buddies and go back up to the ‘old place’ multiple times. And have lefse for breakfast several weeks in a row. And immerse in green. And rarely hear an engine of any kind in a woodsy niche in this smallish town.

I stopped by the Forest Hill Cemetery in Northome to say Hi to mom, dad, grandma and grandpa. Speaking of the time to distance oneself just a bit and consider the next move.

So, here’s a paragraph or two about Minnesota Nice, books, friends, and butter.

Minnesota Nice: We Minnesotans are polite and well-mannered toward one and all, lending our state a pervading pleasantness unbroken by the most critical of outsiders. Although some of those outsiders do claim that the niceness only holds until one’s back is turned; then supposedly we are as snippish and snappish as the rest of humanity. For just a minute, I’m going with the former, having just had lengthy exchanges with Koochiching County officials in International Falls.

Here’s a story: A few years I had the lengthy history of my family’s bit of Northwoods land’s previous ownership investigated. County staff went out of their way to do extensive research and copying to provide me with quite a stack of info. Two days ago, I called with a couple of further queries and not only did they remember me, and offer their ongoing help with a request that went beyond whatever a device can produce and a further device deliver, but they did so willingly and most agreeably. I know I’m making kind of a big deal out of a small thing…and maybe ‘ya had to be there’ but I swear it was above and beyond. Maybe it’s because the Falls (as International Falls is known by all Minnesotans) is on the Canadian border. How’s that for a snippish comment about life in the lower 48, including Minnesota, at this point in time?

I don’t have pictures of the fabulous staff at the Koochiching County offices, especially the office of Recorder, instead here are two old photos grabbed at random from the web, hopefully not leading to my jail time for copyright infringement. It surely is a long time since the Falls was down to 60 below, in fact last week was supposed to be at or near 100° F Above. Anyway, I’m driving up in early August to visit a friend, perhaps I’ll return with some fine photos of my own.

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Books: Ah yes, my favorite favorite topic. And this is what I’m reading … obviously not to make myself feel better about the world! First “Wild Swans: Three Daughters of China” by Jung Chang. I saw ‘Wild Swans…’ on a bookshelf in an airb&b in Johannesburg a few years ago (travel bragging…) and vowed to get it when I returned home—which didn’t happen until a few months ago. I just finished it and highly recommend. It’s a memoir of three generations living from the days of the revolution that brought Mao to power through the end of his reign of mostly terror. It’s a good read in terms of the writing, but it’s also an authentic and moving personal story and a well-told history. If, like me, you knew the broad outlines of China’s time under Mao but relatively few details outside of the Cultural Revolution, this is a great, and not overly ponderous filler. Also interesting to note no few similarities between perpetually insecure and brutally reactionary Mao and our very own wannabe (and almost there) dictator.

And then there’s “Regime Change: Inside the Imperial Presidency of Donald Trump” by Haberman and Swan. I’m early into it and, of course, it’s hilarious and terrifying. Hilarious because the cast of characters is truly right out of central casting for roles in the darkest of  comedies and terrifying because … well … yeah. I’m guessing anyone who follows news of the joker-as-president will know much of what’s in the book, but I expect to learn a few new facts and, almost more importantly, to confirm what I already know through two journalists I trust.

As a reward…I also just finished a brand-new Nordic Noir (“Hide and Seek” by “The Chestnut Man” author, Soren Sveistrup) which is said to be better in book than TV format…but then most stories are. Reading about trump and a serial killer simultaneously makes the latter look positively sane, benign even.

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Friends: I have school friends in Minnesota, a New Mexico/Minnesota friend, and friends who are primarily Robert and Marsha’s friends but whom I also claim after all of these years.

A most lovely homemade ice cream and strawberries gathering with three of the R & M-initiated  friends was held a few days ago out at Barb’s place in the woods, a home I’ve visited many times over the years. It is a magical kingdom of sorts (there are two such kingdoms in friend-territory), more about that later. Barb’s is surrounded by a thick forest on the edge of a small lake, some miles from town, huge bear and wolves and Big Foot prowl the edges. I may have lied about the latter. Anyway, Barb, Mary, Patty, and I had a fine visit over treats and talkiness. Mary and Patty stopped by Albuquerque for a few days of rainy balloon fiesta last fall and I was lucky enough to meet their most interesting sleeper/camper vehicle and to learn about Mary’s extensive kayaking experience. She’s known around here as the ‘kayak lady’ and has been on all Itasca County’s 1007 lakes. (“The Kayak Lady: One Woman, One Kayak and 1007 Lakes” by Mary Shideler) I forgot to take eating-ice-cream pictures, but here’s Mary on another travel vehicle.

Finally. Butter. Good butter—my life’s most important sustenance. My mission to find it wherever I am, eat it, treasure it. And I found the best I’ve tasted so far besides my oft mentioned Setesdal Valley Extra Salty Butter. Countryside Creamery Pure Irish Butter. From Ireland. Salted. Kerrygold, available in every single store in the US must be made for Americans’ sorry butter tongue because it is waxy and salt-free! This Irish Butter, available at Aldi’s (a sort of cousin of Trader Joe’s), is the real deal. Yes, butter as god intended it. Salty, Creamy, Salty….

If anyone cares and can finance me, I would be willing to travel all over Europe sampling and recommending butters for the apparently small, but oh so Discriminating, US market. First class airfare, with an assistant to book hotels and carry my bag. Still, that would be so much cheaper than most trade delegations and actually produce more worthy results.

July 21, 2006

This summer vacation my friend Celia came to visit my Minnesota visit. We played: talking arguing teasing touristing eating. What a nice time it was. Here’s an album to prove it.

Above three photos: Naniboujou Lodge & Restaurant north of Grand Marais, MN

Grand Portage History Center

Sven & Ole’s Pizza is a most popular Grand Marais landmark…and since my dad’s name was Sven I find the pizza delicious.

Lake Superior island from the walls encircling the trading village reconstruction at Grand Portage.

There is an old hymn/country song called “This Old House” by Stuart Hamblen? A few lines may jog old-old people’s memories. “Ain’t gonna need this house no longer/Ain’t gonna need this house no more/Ain’t got time to fix the shingles/Ain’t got time to fix the floor…” As I prepared to make a post that’s mostly an album of photos of my old home, it started running through my head.

Yes, I know, another post or two or three this trip of photos of ‘the old place’ is repeating myself for the umpteenth time…but hey, this blog is basically the photo journal of a little old lady—and we elders are granted dispensation by the sages to repeat and repeat and repeat.  

Another summer, another Minnesota visit, one of these days to be my last. I am only moderately sentimental about old home, old family, old friends—me and us back then—until one of those moments hit when I desperately want it all back, just exactly like it was!

I make constant references to the Aristotle (?) quote, “Give me a child until [s]he is seven and I will show you the [wo]man.” And I think about it often when I’m up here in home-territory. I feel such a perfect example of that seven-year-old; the one who loved books, and pencils and crayons and mom and dad and brother and our dogs and the ever-changing weather and bread and butter. According to my mom I was that person from age two at least: the paper and crayons part, the frost on the windows part, the bread and butter part. I was a stubborn solitary child with stringy hair who didn’t like food very much. And I think I always loved trees, didn’t need to know much about what kind, just loved green and safety and shade perhaps.

So anyway, I’m still exactly like all that; at least it seems that way to me.

This summer my Northwoods time is a little longer than usual. And my sons and grandson will be here for a week so we’ll go up home, up to visit the ‘old place’ a few times…more photos of a peaceful disintegration of a good home and many many trees to follow.

“This old house was home and comfort/As we fought the storms of life/This old house once rang with laughter/This old house heard many shouts…” Well, maybe I’m more sentimental than I admit…. But just in case I was falling too far into maudlin-land, I took along a road trip companion and listened to “With god on our side” to take me back to American reality.

Growing up, we didn’t refer to the tree-filled acres around our house as the forest. We called it the woods. So even though forests blanket other places and regions, to me it always sounds presumptuous to label our miles of northern Minnesota trees so grandly.

Anyway, I’m home in the Northwoods as I write and cannot decide whether ‘home in Minnesota’ blog posts should be considered part of the Decades series I claim to be writing or it’s just its own sentimental meandering. I decided.

Travel

Fine luggage is important to the sophisticated traveler. And this particular ‘fine’ luggage has been around the world with me many times so it deserves recognition.

Arrived on the 1st of July in Grand Rapids, Minnesota. My little ‘old’ brother’s birthday. The travel was smooth, in fact faultless; it felt so silly to have been dreading it. What was I imaging? ICE flooding the airports? People with babies and bundles fleeing north on the Duluth flight? Planes shabby and creaky staffed by cranky MAGAs, the pilots untrained but oh so white. Not really…but under the menacing sleaze at the top, it really is where a world of billionaires and the not-overly-intelligent power-mad leads us.

Happily, not yet though. Everything about my Delta airlines flight on July 1, 2026 was flawless, as good as it gets in terms of service and operation and, amazingly enough, friendliness. Most of my current insecurities about travel have been directed at a newly perceived level of incompetence. Not sure why. Traveling last fall was fine; I didn’t babble, drool, get lost, wet my pants, or forget my name—not that those are bad things in one’s 80s exactly, nevertheless I did not wish to experience them. Somehow, between then and now, great insecurities and a narrowing comfort zone have developed; perhaps I just needed to get out more! And there I was. So, because it all was going so splendidly, my confidence had returned by the time I reached Minneapolis to the point where I had a beer (and excellent deep-fried green bean snack!) at the airport and almost dreamed of further travel. Not Mongolia…but at least New York.

Up North

But so far there is little lore-of-the-north to report. It’s warm and mostly sunny, if nowhere near the intensity of either heat or light in New Mexico. There was a rainstorm yesterday of better than average wild wetness, even some trees on the ground this morning.

I open my bedroom window wide at night to summer cool and damp but, and this is big but, with no mosquitos buzzing the screen. Northern Minnesota. NO Mosquitos. If anything could convince me the planet is screwed, irrevocably damaged, dying even, it is No Mosquitos in Minnesota.

Moving right along. Tomorrow the 4th of July, year 250 of the United States of America story. And our president is a greedy pig. Who’s rapidly destroying the evidence that we were growing into a mature, frequently honest, often well-intentioned, country. Not there yet, but trying our damnedest some days.

Oh well, it will be great fun in the morning trying to piece together the gossip surrounding Taylor’s wedding. Yes, that wedding. The only cheery celebration in town.

Marsha and Robert had lots of company today. Good friends, dropping by to wish Robert well on his 83rd birthday. Baby brother with an 83rd birthday! Marsha puts out nice silverware and pretty dishes and three kinds of cake and ice cream and several choices of tea. It’s hard work being a nice person in a small town in Minnesota-Nice country. Makes me proud of family and place…and a little glad I don’t live here.

We walked on a nearby path along the Mississippi the morning after I arrived. There’s still water here not so very far from the headwaters of the great river. And even though another dry year is underway, it looks so lushly green. Leaf green. Summer tree green. Minnesota green. It makes me happy to be here. Happy 250th to one and to all … and to all … a new president.  

Oh yeah…happy birthday bro!

LEILA WAS HERE

My Decades series is obviously going to skip around. I intended this next post to be about Sweden and my mom’s Swedish heritage. Instead a visit from the Amazing Leila takes over on behalf of the present.

LEILA RIGHT NOW

Did I mention I have a great-granddaughter? Oh yeah, I did. But now she’s four months old and has been on her first trip. To Albuquerque. To introduce her pretty self to the New Mexican side of the Salfity/Magalong/Klotzback/Neset family.

What an impressive girl she already is…to which her adoring masses will attest!

Leila reads a lot; sometimes though you know how it is… you pick a book that puts you right to sleep.

Everybody gets baby-playing turn, cousin Sara (to be known as Rachi, not sure why?) first. Then Old Grandpa (called Lolo, the Filipino name for grandpa! to differentiate from the other grandfather.) and Mom take annoyed baby for a walk. A short walk, she was not impressed with the New Mexican sun, even though quite hidden.

Mom Teresa and Leila joined by Rachi, Cha Cha (Patricia) and Lola (Grandma) Sandra.

And then there’s Aunty and Uncle Steve and Michele. Then Leila ‘said’ No More Pictures. Well, just one.

We talked her into one four-generation posing. Then she absolutely conveyed the sentiment of being so very done with looking sweet and beautiful for the pleasure of the hoi polloi.

And then I sat on the patio and considered Aristotle!

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LEILA THEN

“Give me a child until he is 7 and I will show you the man [woman]” said Aristotle. If I manage to live seven more years I can know something of Leila, the teenager, adult, elder.  My mom lived to be 93 years old; in seven years, I’ll be 94. It’s possible.

I have watched the entire Up series, described below, two and one-half times.  Based on that and on my own life, Aristotle’s statement is so true. I’ve mentioned from time to time, how closely my life adheres to it and how much I see my seven-year-old sons in the sixties-plus men of today.

Please, if you watch TV at all, put the Up series on you list for the near future. Be sure and see it all before the final episode comes out this year. It will be available on some mix of Prime, Britbox, and YouTube.

“The Up series of documentary films follows the lives of ten boys and four girls in England, beginning in 1964, when they were seven years old. The first film was titled Seven Up!, with later films adjusting the number in the title to match the age of the subjects at the time of filming. The documentary has had nine episodes—one every seven years—with a tenth and final instalment due in 2026, spanning a total of 63 years. The series has been produced by Granada Television for ITV, which has broadcast all of them except 42 Up (1998), which was broadcast on BBC One. Individual films and the series as a whole have received numerous accolades. (Wikkipedia, also source of Aristotle quote)

Another day in the Land of Enchantment